i think i heard once about a doctor who got fired because he would always tell sick patients they had no reason to complain because medicine would take care of them as best it could.. when he asked why the hospital had fired him they explained that letting people complain made them feel allot better and allowed doctors to show they cared.. having something to blame and someone to side with them..
if you refute everything he has noted as reason for leaving it may not make him stay.. it may further a distance between him and feeling understood..
if you really want to hold the community together then dont try to expose it as misinformed.. listen to its rage and offer it some kind of empathy..
for example..
im sure there is some truth to what you both say.. its been a while since renames.. but renames was a unpleasant experience and i can agree that it upset me also. fingers crossed it wont need (done for legal reasons?) to be done again
balance is not easy to be fair.. almost any game that does not have scissor paper rock balance will have issues here..
allowing people to voice the changes they would like can mitigate peoples rage and should be seriously considered because it may be a useful change that gets suggested.
if i had to guess this guy was at some point ignored.. put on the other side of a care fence.. and now full of rage with no-place to go.. he should be offered some moral high ground to rejoin us.. after all we are a family
i know there is truth in what you both say
i want to support a reconciliation .. this standoff is ugly .. losing players is not good .. balance is ceaselessly a cause of conflict.. people in these communities can be real ego proud and love to push the idea of salt and it gets bitchy..
fighting in forums is a mini-game?